Locs

Hey friends. I know..this is strange. Two posts in a week, but since I'm on a 4-day fast from Twitter (it's so hard), I'm able to get a lot more things done. Anyway, this post is about my hair. I have finally decided to go ahead and proceed with locs. I attempted to loc my hair in July 2008, but then I changed my mind in June 2009 and combed them down (meaning I untwisted all the hair so that it would be loose). I did this for several reasons. For one, I wasn't ready for the commitment. I had never had an afro or anything, and I still wanted to experiment with natural hair. Second, I went to a black church college homecoming and every 5 people had locs. It was overwhelming! I felt so normal that it compelled me to take mine out! Well now that I have finally made up my mind to lock my hair, I'm really excited about it and I can't wait for my hair to grow! It's going to be exciting and I'll try to keep you guys posted on my progress. I just hope that my locs are long and bountiful by the time graduation comes....

Ahh... I love locs!

Graduation countdown : 781 days

The Roaring 20

So it's been over a month since I blogged. And since then, crazy things have been happening in my life. Somehow, I still manage to get up and keep things going (thanks to God). It's something about age 20 that I'm really not liking..but anyway, one of the big things that's happened to me in the last month is that I've cut off a very long friendship and it's affecting me a lot differently than I thought it would. I've been friends with this particular person for about 6 years and dated them for a number of those years. Even though we were done dating about 2 years ago, we'd still been somewhat romantically involved for no reason. It was going nowhere so I decided to end it in a very deliberate, serious manner. I wanted to guarantee that we would never fall into the same trap again. And it worked. I haven't talked to him since and I don't think that I will. I didn't expect to miss him at all, but I do. He was usually the person that I talked to when my life was crazy, and he helped me get through lots of rough situations. So on one hand, he was a good friend..but at the same time, we would cross the "friend" line and it would make things very awkward and unhealthy for both of us. How can you ever move on if your relationship with your best friend is unhealthy for a new relationship? Sometimes I guess you have to move on and do what's best for both of you, even if one of you doesn't understand it. Oh well...you live and you learn.

Committment Questions

Okay...so as you can see, I have lots on my mind because I just wrote the "welcome to my blog" blog. But anyway, I think a lot when I am by myself and lately I have been spending oodles of quality time with me, myself and I. So a couple hours ago, I was thinking about some things, and commitment just happened to be one of them. I have recently gained some pretty cool guy friends. Although we all do very innocent, light flirting with one another, there is no romantic feeling involved. Basically, we just chat, like new friends do. But it's funny because I think this chatting sometimes makes me wish I was talking to someone who understood me. Although, I know I am nowhere near ready to be in a committed relationship with the person I'm going to marry, the desire to know who it is and when I will meet them still comes and goes. So tonight I was asking myself, "what would I do if God sent that person to me now?" And to honestly answer that question, I had no idea. My first guess is probably mess it up. The relationship with the person that you will marry is most definitely the most important relationship you will ever have with someone of the opposite sex. In order to set a good path for the type of marriage relationship you want, good choices have to be made from the beginning. In past relationships, I have made and allowed bad choices to be made, some which detrimentally affected the relationship. I don't want this to happen with the man that God will send for me to marry. So therefore, instead of worrying about having someone who understands me now, I will work on my decision making and other things that could be better so that I am as amazing as I can possibly be when the time comes for that very special man to come into my life. And hopefully, he and I will be able to make decisions that God would be pleased with and it will reflect in our relationship. So to all my single friends out there who wish they were with someone or are hoping for a relationship, would you truly be ready for one if God sent that right person today? Is there anything you can work on to better prepare yourself? What are you doing to better prepare yourself? Think about these things and hopefully you can find something to intentionally work on to help you pass the time a little faster. Toodles! :)

So I Decided to Start Blogging

Hello everyone. Greetings and welcome to my blog. As you can see, I have decided to start blogging. A friend of mine suggested that I blog because I like to talk and discuss things, and also because a friend of his suggested that he blog for similar reasons. It's funny because I set this blog up around August 2009, however, my life was extremely busy last semester (I predict that this won't change) and I didn't really have time to devote to writing. I pray that this won't be the case this year and that I will be a faithful blogger. Anyway, I'm glad that you stopped by and I look forward to putting my thoughts down and hearing what you have to say about them...well, I guess I am. :)